I'd hate anyone doing to me, because I'm an awful manipulative person and I lie all the time.

But if he's the kind of man who's going to wreck my life later, then I don't care about betraying him, and if he isn't, hopefully he'll be glad that I can trust his assurances. Pascal's wager is an emphatic go. And I'm planning to try my best to keep him on topic. Direct questions seem to work pretty well.

...I'm really good at rationalizing.